[Overdue: Supposed to be posted on 8th Sep]

On wed night, I’ve watched ‘Lets Talk’ show. The topic is about friends.

I don’t know what is the first impression I always give to a stranger. The first question in the talk show was “is it difficult to make new friends?”

Given my character, I find it fairly okay to break the wall between myself and a stranger. Often it’s the first impression that tells me whether should I go forward or not. Quite a quiet person, so if that person is friendly, why not? If not its usually through friends.

The host asked, what are the factors when finding friends? I think it comes naturally? Why need to think so much when making a new friend? Unless it’s a good or close friend, then maybe we have to look at the character etc.

The problems for me opening up to new people is because of my own character I guess. I’m a quiet person, and a little introvert since young. Usually I’m afraid to approach someone I don’t really know unless I really need to. Even if I know you, sometimes I don’t talk a lot too. Lol perhaps speaking is one problem for me. That’s why I’m quite a boring person. Hahaha. But if I am very close to you, I can talk to you non-stop even if its random stuff. But over the years I think I had really opened up, thanks to my close friends.

One of the topics they talked about is their experience of being hurt by friend. I don’t really remember any actually, like seriously. Maybe I was just living my life day by day without worries last time. Haha miss those days. But anyway, the guest quoted this: “Make friends with your heart. And make the correct ones. If you want them to be honest & real, start with yourself. This is one of the key point to keep long term friends.” Personally I think I did, to some of my close friends.

Is being alone and not making any friends possible? There is a period of time which I thought it was really alright to be alone. But when I think back, it was kind of sad. I think I must have friends no matter what. With friends, you can have fun together, someone to talk to etc. No friends damn emo sia, and can get depression very easily.

“There is always a few problems you will face when making friends because they are not you”

So what are the few things you look into when having good or close friends? For me, that person just have to be real and truthful. I wouldn’t want to have someone getting close to me because of some motive. And I hate lies (who like it?). No doubt there’s always something which one will never let out to others. But like if everything also hide, what for right? And very impt, we can talk freely about anything.

They had shared some of their true experience of themselves having to lose their good friends. Here I want to share mine too, and words that are left unsaid, all in the next post.